We were doing his reading lessons. PAL (Primary Arts of Language, from IEW)
With this program your child learns a lot of helpers, such as ee, ow, er, ck, etc...
Anyhow, he has a poem that correlates to his lessons, and in this poem he was supposed to find all of the helpers he has learned so far.
Well, he had been doing this for a while, and he hadn't found them all, so I gently reminded him of one of the helpers...HUGE MISTAKE!
He was so upset. He began crying and he got up from the table and yelled "You ruined it! This was supposed to be a challenge, but you told me the answer, and now it is ruined. I don't like this program anymore!"
Well, I was shocked to say the least, and really quite upset that he was acting this way.
I told him if he did not stop acting like that, he would be in trouble.
But then I got to thinking, yes he shouldn't have got so angry and yelled at me, BUT, he wasn't actually trying to be mean to me on purpose.
He was very upset. I ruined it for him.
I didn't realize how seriously he was taking this. He was looking at it as a challenge.
And I took the challenge out of it by telling him the answers. (sigh)
I recalled Andrew Pudewa's talk Teaching Boys and Other Children Who Would Rather be Making Forts all Day.
I remember him saying that boys look at things so differently. That they look at everything as a challenge.
He was also talking about how boys like to put action into whatever they are doing. This is so true.
I learned a big lesson about teaching my son. Make things seem like a challenge, and he will want to do them. Even if it is something like finding helpers in a poem.
If I didn't let him look at it like a challenge, he probably would find it boring, and not want to do it.
Another lesson learned...DON'T tell boys the answers unless they ask you first! lol
Teaching boys is sometimes a challenge, but boys are oh so sweet, aren't they?
Do you have any tips for teaching boys?
Remember to enjoy this time with them, as they grow up so fast, and we will surely miss those days of teaching them.
I know it is difficult sometimes, even with girls, but I want to encourage you to stay strong, and try not to get too stressed out about teaching your children.
God called you to do this, and He will grant you the strength to do it as well.
Now go give your boys a challenge!!!