For those of you who don't know, I just recently quit nursing my son. He was 3 1/2 years old.
I thought it would be really hard to stop nursing, and in a way it was, but it is a good thing. We cuddle more and he is so loving but the biggest benefit is that his relationship with his dad had grown so much. It is amazing to see there bond grow. He is such a daddy's boy now!
It is important to have that bond with them but they also really need that bond with their dad.
He used to go to sleep with me and now he cuddles up with his dad and goes to sleep. It is so precious.
Besides, I can get a little more sleep now, huh?LOL!
It is amazing how much the bond with the fathers grow once weaning happens and it is a really good thing. (No I am not Martha Stewart! HA)
As the mom you do not lose the bond that you had either. It is just a little different but just as sweet.
They grow up so fast and the bonds stay, they just grow sweeter!
Monday, November 3, 2008
I have not yelled at my kids in 2 days!
I know, this sounds both good and bad, doesn't it.
But I have been trying really hard not to lose my patience with my kids and it is hard to do, especially after the tenth time of saying the same thing. I get frustrated when they will not listen right away. I know, I can't expect them to be perfect. They are 11 and 3. It is hard though for me to do. It is like, I know what I am supposed to do and I also know that how I react really sets the tone for how they will act also.
When I react in a calm patient way, they do not get all up in a roar and make things worse. I know this, yet, I still lose my patience. Why? I don't know but it always reminds me of the verse that says I know what I should do , yet I don't do it. I know what I shouldn't do, yet, I do it..
That may not be the exact words but I feel like that every day.
Probably most of us do. But I am so, so tired of being stressed out.
The last two days i have tried my hardest. MY TRICK IS TO NOT RAISE MY VOICE! It works because if you don't raise your voice, you do not get as upset. There have been a few times where it was harder and my voice may have went up an octave or two (LOL) but not yelling!!
It really is important to work really hard to not yell and lose your temper.
If you do keep on yelling and arguing with your kids all the time, you will never be able to have the relationship that you could otherwise.
I really thing that this is what make our kids rebel.
When you go about things in a way that makes them angry, they do not think, "oh, I upset my mom and I really do need to work on that", NO, they will not do that; But if you go about things more calmly and patiently, they will see things more clearly. they can't think of the situation when they are just as upset and angry as you are.
Plus, it makes it difficult to really see the best in your kids when you are always yelling and arguing and you have the mindset that says, they "always" do that or they "never" listen. It puts thoughts into your mind that need not be there. We need to not hold things against our kids.
We are supposed to be forgiving and if we are always saying they never listen, etc.. we are not truly forgiving them and we are labeling them.
If, instead, we say something like, Honey, I know you are upset at the moment but I also know that you do not want to yell at your brother, or I know that you do not want to be rude to me, so go ahead and take a deep breath and calmly tell me what is going on, it will go much smoother.
Trust me, it works and I also know it is very hard, but I can not stop thinking that this is NOT how God wants me to raise his children, by yelling at them.
He gave me these kids to train them up for him and he would not approve.
I will just keep praying and keep on working on this because I don't want to lose my kids and I will if things keep on going badly. We can not live well if we are always arguing with each other. It is hard to love one another when you are always yelling and arguing, ya know?
So, if you are having this same problem, just know that you are not alone and that you can do this. Just try not to raise your voice and focus on that and it will get easier!
I pray that we all can overcome this together.
God Bless you all.
Love, Rodna
But I have been trying really hard not to lose my patience with my kids and it is hard to do, especially after the tenth time of saying the same thing. I get frustrated when they will not listen right away. I know, I can't expect them to be perfect. They are 11 and 3. It is hard though for me to do. It is like, I know what I am supposed to do and I also know that how I react really sets the tone for how they will act also.
When I react in a calm patient way, they do not get all up in a roar and make things worse. I know this, yet, I still lose my patience. Why? I don't know but it always reminds me of the verse that says I know what I should do , yet I don't do it. I know what I shouldn't do, yet, I do it..
That may not be the exact words but I feel like that every day.
Probably most of us do. But I am so, so tired of being stressed out.
The last two days i have tried my hardest. MY TRICK IS TO NOT RAISE MY VOICE! It works because if you don't raise your voice, you do not get as upset. There have been a few times where it was harder and my voice may have went up an octave or two (LOL) but not yelling!!
It really is important to work really hard to not yell and lose your temper.
If you do keep on yelling and arguing with your kids all the time, you will never be able to have the relationship that you could otherwise.
I really thing that this is what make our kids rebel.
When you go about things in a way that makes them angry, they do not think, "oh, I upset my mom and I really do need to work on that", NO, they will not do that; But if you go about things more calmly and patiently, they will see things more clearly. they can't think of the situation when they are just as upset and angry as you are.
Plus, it makes it difficult to really see the best in your kids when you are always yelling and arguing and you have the mindset that says, they "always" do that or they "never" listen. It puts thoughts into your mind that need not be there. We need to not hold things against our kids.
We are supposed to be forgiving and if we are always saying they never listen, etc.. we are not truly forgiving them and we are labeling them.
If, instead, we say something like, Honey, I know you are upset at the moment but I also know that you do not want to yell at your brother, or I know that you do not want to be rude to me, so go ahead and take a deep breath and calmly tell me what is going on, it will go much smoother.
Trust me, it works and I also know it is very hard, but I can not stop thinking that this is NOT how God wants me to raise his children, by yelling at them.
He gave me these kids to train them up for him and he would not approve.
I will just keep praying and keep on working on this because I don't want to lose my kids and I will if things keep on going badly. We can not live well if we are always arguing with each other. It is hard to love one another when you are always yelling and arguing, ya know?
So, if you are having this same problem, just know that you are not alone and that you can do this. Just try not to raise your voice and focus on that and it will get easier!
I pray that we all can overcome this together.
God Bless you all.
Love, Rodna
Wisdom Kids free this week!
Wisdom Kids! Thanks and Giving is free this week at Currclik. I just downloaded it and it looks really good! It is or ages 4-15. It has copywork, scripture and coloring pages.
You can get it at www.currclick.com
You can get it at www.currclick.com
Friday, October 31, 2008
Warning about delsym Cough Syrup...
The active ingredient in Delsym, dextromethorphan, can cause hallucinations. At the very least, in it's proper doses can also, like it did my son, cause MAJOR night terrors. i am not sure if it was night terrors or hallucinations or both but the doctors said that this is what the highschoolers are now using to get high and make themselves have hallucinations.
It was really scary what hapened to my son.
I did not know that this was the new drug kids were using either! Man, it sure keeps changing, huh?
Ok, well, I though you might like to know.
it also has put a renewed vision in my mind of making sure anything that they could possibly get into, is put away.
Stay safe with our kids and meds.
It was really scary what hapened to my son.
I did not know that this was the new drug kids were using either! Man, it sure keeps changing, huh?
Ok, well, I though you might like to know.
it also has put a renewed vision in my mind of making sure anything that they could possibly get into, is put away.
Stay safe with our kids and meds.
The best book on homeschooling I have ever read!
The Heart of Homeschooling is the best book on homeschooling I have ever read. It is written by a home school father in the HSLDA, Christopher Klicka.
This book really gets to the heart of what parenting and homeschooling is really all about.
If you have ever wondered what the bible says about how our children should be taught, it is in here.
It teaches from every viewpoint. What the bible says about homeschooling, The husband, the father, the mother the home school teenager, the biblical worldview, understanding suffering in the midst of homeschooling, evangelism and homeschooling, etc..
This book is sooo good, I just can't tell you enough how much I love it. I have so many corners turned down so I can go back and read it again.
It will really help you to understand what the bible says about homeschooling and better equip you to tell others what the bible says and why you believe this way.
I have read a LOT of home school books and this is at the very top of my list!
Check it out, you will love it!
This book really gets to the heart of what parenting and homeschooling is really all about.
If you have ever wondered what the bible says about how our children should be taught, it is in here.
It teaches from every viewpoint. What the bible says about homeschooling, The husband, the father, the mother the home school teenager, the biblical worldview, understanding suffering in the midst of homeschooling, evangelism and homeschooling, etc..
This book is sooo good, I just can't tell you enough how much I love it. I have so many corners turned down so I can go back and read it again.
It will really help you to understand what the bible says about homeschooling and better equip you to tell others what the bible says and why you believe this way.
I have read a LOT of home school books and this is at the very top of my list!
Check it out, you will love it!
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